Sober Sorting
What if every first few dates with someone new was sans alcohol? I wonder how many people would even get a second date. Talk about rose colored lenses. My favorite first dates have been sober. If I’m comfortable, attracted and interested with no alcohol, it’s usually on. Last year I dated a man who doesn’t drink. At first I was devastated to hear he didn’t but looking back, it’s my favorite getting to know one another time. Always up for adventure, I decided I wouldn’t drink while with him. Being with him totally sober required a different way of being in the awkwardness of those first few months. From our first kiss to our first everything, we were fully present and aware, and I loved it. Sometimes it was uncomfortable not to ease certain moments with a glass of wine, but overall totally liberating. I never had those worries of, “oh my god, I said what?” Dating is awkward. But dating isn’t the problem. Sorting is. People meet new people all the time. How we sort is the answer. And while there are many ways to sort (trust being number one), sober sorting is the best method I know for clear direction and answers. Of course, not all my first dates are sans booze, but if a date seems to have potential, I make a point to plan a sober outing right away. A hike, a walk on the beach, strip scrabble (just kidding!), anything that’s fun and active in the light of day. Sober sorting is the new black. Sex-ay!
